Comments on: reader submission- his friend committed suicide: http://www.imboycrazy.com/2009/10/reader-submission-his-friend-comitted-suicide/ A pep talk in the form of a slap in the face in the form of a blog. Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:13:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: the best exercise to lose belly fat fast http://www.imboycrazy.com/2009/10/reader-submission-his-friend-comitted-suicide/comment-page-1/#comment-39756 the best exercise to lose belly fat fast Wed, 15 Dec 2010 07:11:01 +0000 http://imboycrazy.com/?p=2007#comment-39756 I noticed a terrific enhancement in the crafting, I'll wish to make contact. Keep up to date favorable do the job! The creating can be quite motivational for a person who is new to this type of material. I noticed a terrific enhancement in the crafting, I’ll wish to make contact. Keep up to date favorable do the job! The creating can be quite motivational for a person who is new to this type of material.

]]> By: Bradley http://www.imboycrazy.com/2009/10/reader-submission-his-friend-comitted-suicide/comment-page-1/#comment-30999 Bradley Thu, 29 Oct 2009 07:06:43 +0000 http://imboycrazy.com/?p=2007#comment-30999 Well, dash your hopes against a wall, I know why she did it. I'd do it too if I had the strength to press down. You should feel bad, you arrogant prick. Well, dash your hopes against a wall, I know why she did it. I’d do it too if I had the strength to press down. You should feel bad, you arrogant prick.

]]> By: noah cicero http://www.imboycrazy.com/2009/10/reader-submission-his-friend-comitted-suicide/comment-page-1/#comment-30934 noah cicero Tue, 27 Oct 2009 00:05:34 +0000 http://imboycrazy.com/?p=2007#comment-30934 who wrote this? who wrote this?

]]> By: kelly http://www.imboycrazy.com/2009/10/reader-submission-his-friend-comitted-suicide/comment-page-1/#comment-30796 kelly Fri, 16 Oct 2009 02:47:11 +0000 http://imboycrazy.com/?p=2007#comment-30796 I don't think this guy was an asshole- I think he's just honest.Reading this made me ache. I don’t think this guy was an asshole- I think he’s just honest.Reading this made me ache.

]]> By: Tash http://www.imboycrazy.com/2009/10/reader-submission-his-friend-comitted-suicide/comment-page-1/#comment-30794 Tash Fri, 16 Oct 2009 01:11:17 +0000 http://imboycrazy.com/?p=2007#comment-30794 That was sincere and heartfelt. Thankyou. That was sincere and heartfelt. Thankyou.

]]> By: Erik Kolacek http://www.imboycrazy.com/2009/10/reader-submission-his-friend-comitted-suicide/comment-page-1/#comment-30793 Erik Kolacek Thu, 15 Oct 2009 22:37:31 +0000 http://imboycrazy.com/?p=2007#comment-30793 @the author: @christeen: Christeen, I'll be up front. I suffer from PTSD and serious subsequent anxiety. I've had women get involved with me in some very intense emotional and sexual relationships. Sometimes when they see up close just how damaged I am they have to back out quickly just to keep their own heads straight. I'm not sensing that this piece was written by a shallow hipster asshole for self-aggrandizement. He may feel shallow for not wanting to share a sex-worker with her customers, but who would? It is what it is. I'm sensing that he had a normal interaction with her (as normal as any male-female sexual interaction can be in this morally bankrupt decade) and that he had to step back when he realized just how dark, fucked up and lonely it was inside her head. I can see how you would arrive at your conclusions and I don't think that you are wrong so much as I think this is just a guy trying to figure out why this is still hurting him so much a year later. It took me 10 years to be able to cry when my mother died. Some of us can reason inwardly and some of us have to express our questions outwardly. Please feel free to disagree with his motives. I'm sure most readers are doing just that. Just maybe try not to beat on the guy so hard. I'm pretty sure no one can make him feel as shitty and hopeless as he is already making himself feel. Thanks, both of you. Reading this has been cathartic. Sincerely, Erik @the author: @christeen:

Christeen, I’ll be up front.

I suffer from PTSD and serious subsequent anxiety. I’ve had women get involved with me in some very intense emotional and sexual relationships. Sometimes when they see up close just how damaged I am they have to back out quickly just to keep their own heads straight.

I’m not sensing that this piece was written by a shallow hipster asshole for self-aggrandizement. He may feel shallow for not wanting to share a sex-worker with her customers, but who would?

It is what it is.

I’m sensing that he had a normal interaction with her (as normal as any male-female sexual interaction can be in this morally bankrupt decade) and that he had to step back when he realized just how dark, fucked up and lonely it was inside her head.

I can see how you would arrive at your conclusions and I don’t think that you are wrong so much as I think this is just a guy trying to figure out why this is still hurting him so much a year later. It took me 10 years to be able to cry when my mother died.

Some of us can reason inwardly and some of us have to express our questions outwardly. Please feel free to disagree with his motives. I’m sure most readers are doing just that. Just maybe try not to beat on the guy so hard. I’m pretty sure no one can make him feel as shitty and hopeless as he is already making himself feel.

Thanks, both of you. Reading this has been cathartic.

Sincerely,
Erik

]]> By: Christeen http://www.imboycrazy.com/2009/10/reader-submission-his-friend-comitted-suicide/comment-page-1/#comment-30789 Christeen Thu, 15 Oct 2009 18:10:36 +0000 http://imboycrazy.com/?p=2007#comment-30789 You know, we are not all this shallow. We don't all lack enough self-control to not take advantage of people we don't have the same feelings for and then have the audacity to use his/her story as some sort of pathetic attempt at salvation. I know that I have certainly encountered/slept with enough of you shits in plenty of Royal Oak-like establishments across Brooklyn to imagine the kind of company you keep isn't telling you what you should be hearing. I wouldn't give you shit for not wanting to date a stripper. I wouldn't even remotely think of blaming you for her suicide. What I do hold you accountable for is being such a spineless fuck you slept with her for months allowing her to think you cared, knowingly I'm absolutely sure, then called her when your needy ass was lonely? I mean how do you look at yourself in the mirror long enough to ironically style your surely filthy hair? How dare you write this drivel to this random blog, "as a way of filling her digital construct" you pretentious waste of fecal matter. I wish William Gibson could read this and be mortified that anyone capable of appreciating his work could also produce such a pathetically veiled attempt at self-aggrandizement based on someone else's real tragedy. For some reason you think acknowledging your apathetic behavior somehow excuses it, allowing us all to revel in how the difficulty of truly connecting with other people creates these surface interactions that we allow because maybe they're better than nothing at all. Yes, we live in an apathetic age, and you live in a particularly apathetic city, but those facts do not forgive this exultation of emotional careleness. Yes, we are all sometimes careless, and sometimes we are all shallow. But at least most of us have the decency to be upset about these things, and work to keep them from being repeat offenses. And I'm pretty sure I've never been this shallow. You know, we are not all this shallow. We don’t all lack enough self-control to not take advantage of people we don’t have the same feelings for and then have the audacity to use his/her story as some sort of pathetic attempt at salvation. I know that I have certainly encountered/slept with enough of you shits in plenty of Royal Oak-like establishments across Brooklyn to imagine the kind of company you keep isn’t telling you what you should be hearing. I wouldn’t give you shit for not wanting to date a stripper. I wouldn’t even remotely think of blaming you for her suicide. What I do hold you accountable for is being such a spineless fuck you slept with her for months allowing her to think you cared, knowingly I’m absolutely sure, then called her when your needy ass was lonely? I mean how do you look at yourself in the mirror long enough to ironically style your surely filthy hair? How dare you write this drivel to this random blog, “as a way of filling her digital construct” you pretentious waste of fecal matter. I wish William Gibson could read this and be mortified that anyone capable of appreciating his work could also produce such a pathetically veiled attempt at self-aggrandizement based on someone else’s real tragedy. For some reason you think acknowledging your apathetic behavior somehow excuses it, allowing us all to revel in how the difficulty of truly connecting with other people creates these surface interactions that we allow because maybe they’re better than nothing at all. Yes, we live in an apathetic age, and you live in a particularly apathetic city, but those facts do not forgive this exultation of emotional careleness. Yes, we are all sometimes careless, and sometimes we are all shallow. But at least most of us have the decency to be upset about these things, and work to keep them from being repeat offenses. And I’m pretty sure I’ve never been this shallow.

]]> By: The author http://www.imboycrazy.com/2009/10/reader-submission-his-friend-comitted-suicide/comment-page-1/#comment-30783 The author Thu, 15 Oct 2009 05:53:20 +0000 http://imboycrazy.com/?p=2007#comment-30783 I wrote this as a way of filling her digital construct, like Dixie in gibson's neuromancer. I did feel. I do feel. But I'm not going to lie. This is exactly how it went for me (please see "rashomon"). Like you have never been so shallow. It was about a year since we dated and she hung herself. She had a son. I was always sad that I could not meet her son. And now I never will. I had flowers sent to the funeral. We are all this shallow. I wrote this as a way of filling her digital construct, like Dixie in gibson’s neuromancer. I did feel. I do feel. But I’m not going to lie. This is exactly how it went for me (please see “rashomon”). Like you have never been so shallow. It was about a year since we dated and she hung herself. She had a son. I was always sad that I could not meet her son. And now I never will. I had flowers sent to the funeral. We are all this shallow.

]]> By: ashley woelfel http://www.imboycrazy.com/2009/10/reader-submission-his-friend-comitted-suicide/comment-page-1/#comment-30780 ashley woelfel Thu, 15 Oct 2009 02:39:53 +0000 http://imboycrazy.com/?p=2007#comment-30780 i personally think this is a very depressing story but at the same time very well written. i feel he should be ashamed of how he feels but at the same time i feel the sorrow for him. he lost someone he was connected to in his life and no matter who you are thats heartwrenching. i personally think this is a very depressing story but at the same time very well written. i feel he should be ashamed of how he feels but at the same time i feel the sorrow for him. he lost someone he was connected to in his life and no matter who you are thats heartwrenching.

]]> By: Claire Hensley http://www.imboycrazy.com/2009/10/reader-submission-his-friend-comitted-suicide/comment-page-1/#comment-30773 Claire Hensley Wed, 14 Oct 2009 22:14:06 +0000 http://imboycrazy.com/?p=2007#comment-30773 I don't think he is in the wrong for not wanting to date a stripper. Everyone has these built in morals that just can't disappear on command. I'm sure more then half of you wouldn't date a stripper either. BUT, the fact that he basically fell in love with the girl and then left her on the side of the road is a little fucked up. I feel for him though. While reading this I noticed myself feeling more sympathy towards him then the actual stripper. Because he is suffering with his mistakes. She killed herself and he wasn't there to interject. He probably feels like it's all his fault. I'm sure he was thinking, "maybe if i would have just kept seeing her this wouldn't have happened". Living with that type if guilt and pain would be the worst thing ever. I want to give the guy a huge hug,wipe his tears (i'm sure he's cried) and buy him a drink. I don’t think he is in the wrong for not wanting to date a stripper. Everyone has these built in morals that just can’t disappear on command. I’m sure more then half of you wouldn’t date a stripper either. BUT, the fact that he basically fell in love with the girl and then left her on the side of the road is a little fucked up. I feel for him though. While reading this I noticed myself feeling more sympathy towards him then the actual stripper. Because he is suffering with his mistakes. She killed herself and he wasn’t there to interject. He probably feels like it’s all his fault. I’m sure he was thinking, “maybe if i would have just kept seeing her this wouldn’t have happened”. Living with that type if guilt and pain would be the worst thing ever. I want to give the guy a huge hug,wipe his tears (i’m sure he’s cried) and buy him a drink.

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