BLOG » the blind leading the blind (part 38):
1. if he doesn’t ask for your phone number, he doesn’t want it.
2. girls can fake an orgasm- but guys can fake an entire relationship. (But either way, they’re missing out in the end and the joke’s on the faker.)
3. don’t keep food in your house! it means you like to eat or whatever! what’s that all about bro?
4. some guys just aren’t interested. Some guys ARE interested. Some guys you can steamroll and some guys you can’t. The gems are the ones who ARE interested, who you CAN’T steamroll.
5. dudes, keep your fucking guy friends away from your hot new girlfriend. cuz it’s THOSE assholes who will go after her when you two are done! whether you know it or NOT!
6. just because it didn’t work out with your latest ex, doesn’t mean you have to talk shit about him. it just wasn’t right. it doesn’t mean he was a monster! Jesus! be nice!
7. move forward. not backwards, or side to side!
8. you can always just have coffee. you don’t have to eat just because you’re meeting a friend/person at a place that serves food. and do not feel guilty about it!
9. be gentle for Christ’s sake! it’s your fucking face!
10. one day, i swear to god, you will learn how to be the same person in every situation you find yourself in. i know it sounds impossible, and you think you have to morph and change and pretend and shift in every different situation you’re in- depending on the person you’re with: but it’s not true. if you are lucky, and by lucky i mean- if you grow up, you will know who you are and be able to walk into any room and bring yourself with you- and not be scared. you will be truly developed and 100% in your skin. so, even though people and situations might bring out other sides of you, you won’t be an impostor; living in fear and feeling like a fraud. because at the core, you will be the same person and solid in every environment you enter. good luck. i love you!
Ilove the BLB- blind leading the blind- posts! I honestly have read them all and thank you for the “pep talk in form of a slap to the face in form of a blog” and not to mention some great advice!
# 10 is something I am really trying to work on… I am not fake, but in the position that I am in, I have to put on masks and be something different to every person I am around. But thanks Alexi for the light at the end of the tunnel.
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#4 is so true with respect to women as well.
i love these, and as always, i find some great advice.
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As always: THANK YOU*
#4 is not really true. i mean, HELLO?! Bro’s before ho’s remember? You really have to want revenge or smth to hook up with your friend’s ex.
2. If you fake it, he/she is gonna keep doing the same lame shit over and over thinking you like it. I’m not one for boring sex. I never fake it.
4/8. You need to get over your food issues, woman! I know tons of boys who hate girls that are so worried about their weight that they cannot enjoy a meal. Food is amazing! Just work out tons! At least that’s what I do. Boy I’m dating loves that we can pig out together. P.S. I’m not fat either. Just sayin.
6. People need to stop getting so hurt over flings/minirelationships that didn’t work. Some people aren’t compatible on a romantic level, but that doesn’t mean I don’t think you’re a great person, just not the one for me!
what do you mean by “steamroll”?
like, getting them to do whatever you want?
I love this, I love BLB, I love you!
I love this, I love BLB, I love you!
10 made me feel a lot better. Thanks Alexi <3
I think you need to make BLB video episodes.
They’re just the greatest!
number 10 hit me like a brick wall, I love you!
This is by the far the best one yet!!
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dude! number 10! i so needed to hear that. I usually feel like an impostor. i love ur blog alexi! ur still so honest just like u said u would be. <3
#1 is so true. When I was single, I’d always try to rationalize a guy not asking for my number by saying, “I don’t think he knew I was interested. I should have flirted more, been more aggressive, etc etc. Nope, he just wasn’t THAT into me. And I already practice #8 regularly. I am ridiculously broke, so when I want to network or catch up with a friend, I always suggest meeting for coffee. Meeting for “A drink” never works. Who can stop at just one? NOT ME!
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thank you for these posts. so true
thanks alexi! i love you too!
“don’t keep food in your house! it means you like to eat or whatever! what’s that all about bro?”
What is wrong with you?
The tenth one was amazing. I love these posts, keep ‘em coming :3
This is my favorite one.
Ok obsessing over food is not attractive and I’m not saying having a jumbo cheeseburger and beer is either but I hope girls aren’t reading this and thinking its cute to go around making a big deal about food or being on diets. I think being thin and eating like a normal human being in front of guys makes you all the more mysterious so save the starving yourself and comments on dieting for private.
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10 is quality….
and there are deff some situations in which 1 is not true
But what if he is a monster Alexi?
I love you bonita!!
Thanks for these. Sometimes situations are simple and we know the answers; numbers 1, 4, 7. Make that most of the time. I really appreciate number 10.
#5 Chicks do that shit too…and its just as shitty. #10 One of the all time “good guys” in American Film and Literature was descibed that way. Atticus Finch was “the same man in his own living room, that you would meet on the street. You always saw the same person no matter what” Read the book it is awesome.
Hey Alexi… best Blind Leading The Blind yet… loved it!!! Preach!
You should check out my blog post today about some “rules” you could pick up from dating books… total ridiculousness! Stay chill… <3
Absolutely the best BLB yet. number 10 is something I’m really trying to work on. Thanks Alexi, much much love. xx
hey alexi, love u in the new el perro del mar music video x
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I LOVE YOUR BLB! I have read all of them and i reconize so much of it.
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come on guys the food in the house thing is obviously a joke
Speaking as a guy, sometimes we’re not as bold as you think we are and are too shy to ask for your number. Then next thing we know, we’re kicking ourselves because we weren’t brave/confident/cool enough to just man up and do it. A lot of times when you think you “click” and then you don’t get asked — it’s not you, it’s us.
Yeah, I am waiting (slash trying to make it happen) for that day when I know who I am and can be it 100% of the time.
what if he asks for your number but never calls? oh, dream boy… now do i have to avoid you at your place of business? but that is my favorite store!!!
Love number 10. Keep them coming Alexi
8. you can always just have coffee. you don’t have to eat just because you’re meeting a friend/person at a place that serves food. and do not feel guilty about it!
seriously? you need to cut it out with the eating issue crap. i’m tired of reading it. guys like girls who are secure about their bodies, not girls who obsess over their weight all of the time. it’s unflattering. i like being able to eat together.
That picture of kate moss and johnny depp is gorgeous. That is exactly how a man should treat a woman’s body.. Fucking WORSHIP it. LOL
#10 is a piece of crap, pat yourself on the back, load of nonsense. “Look at me, I’m great, nothing’s wrong with me, woohoo.” No one is their self, no one is confident, no one knows who they are. Stop feeding out these empty lines of advice that simply inflate people’s oversized egos. There’s nothing wrong with looking at yourself and saying, “There’s some things I don’t like that I want to change.” Give some real advice, use proper punctuation and capitalize your letters at the beginning of your sentences, stop feeding the lie that women live some TERRIBLE gauntlet of life around EVIL EVIL men. Grow up. And the rest of you, you’re all slaves to fashion.
you know, #10 won’t happen if you still tell people not keeping food in the house or ordering only coffee when they go out is GOOD. that means you have not grown up yet. Its best to keep this sort of advice to yourself, thanks.
unless you write a book about getting over it and FULLy reaching #10 like Crystal Renn!!!
No. 10 is completely right. It’s all the dorky white fortysomething moms, though, who are there — not the hipsters and hipster wannabes.
A round of applause for your blog post. Will read on…
number ten was brilliant/super comforting. needed that, thank you.
i just started reading your blog tonight/realized you were the girl in the peppermint patty commercial (right?!) i saw on dancing with the stars night with my gmaaaa.
It is just amazing that the multitude of talent that Depp portrayed behind the camera throughout his whole film career especially with a movie like Edward Scissor Hands. Thanks for all of the good times Depp!