BLOG » make it YOURS mondays: a letter from LIZ GOLDWYN!
this response is a big deal!
she’s an artist, a writer, a filmmaker! and if i play it cool (OR just continue being myself, and she can find it in her heart to accept me)….. she just might be my new bfff TOO!
I don’t want to get all girl power on you—but…Fuck that! —I shall!
We can achieve so much more by supporting each other than by tearing down—what is the purpose of judging, criticizing, being catty or competitive with other women?
We are faced with so many messages and obstacles about how we have to look behave succeed feel be feminine on a daily basis; and then we are going to go and make it harder on ourselves by hating on our own sex???!!
Other women constantly inspire me, and it makes me feel better about myself to be complimented or supported by them too… I will always tell a girl when I like her style, lipstick, writing, music, attitude, whatever, and I don’t care if that not a “cool” thing to do….Who said that we are not supposed to admire each other? Who said that we have to spend all our time worrying about what boys think of us? What about all the shit we want to do with our lives??!!! Lets stop wasting time on the small stuff!
What do we judge ourselves on? Our bodies?
Is she skinnier/ curvier/prettier/smaller boobs/ bigger ones/ etc?
It’s just exhausting and. …HELLO???!!! : Marilyn Monroe was a size 12 and the first female fertility symbols/ icons of beauty and sex appeal would be considered obese by today’s standards but this was once the norm! And on the opposite end of the spectrum… Olive Oyl (Popeye’s lady) –who might be called awkward and gangly was HOT STUFF! And she didn’t take shit from Popeye either!
So my point is there’s room for all types…
And as far as hating on other women’s success, let me just point out how few female CEO’s; Fortune 500 execs; movie directors; presidents, even…. fashion designers (??!) out are that are recognized and making the same salary as men…and in 2010 for goodness sake! It’s hard enough as it is to make it in this world, and then to have to contend with all the issues that come along with being a woman who is invested in business but doesn’t want to give up her corsets and high heels to be taken seriously? Is it really going to help any of us to be jealous of another’s achievements? I think there’s enough room for all of us, there certainly are for men… hmmmm….something to think about….
I could go on for pages, but I had to say a little something, as I look at Alexi’s blog and think about how I admire her for putting it all out there for us to look at and think about—and wish I could have the strength she does to be so honest and vulnerable in a public forum… maybe we can look at other women and find qualities we are attracted to instead of looking to men for self-esteem. We can love respect and admire men, but we gotta love ourselves first, ladies…