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1. Girls: get rid of the subliminal pressure society has ingrained in you since before you were born. If you NEVER have kids or get married, you are not a failure. Figure out what you want in life/what kind of woman you wanna be/ what your dreams and aspirations are, and then: make them happen. If having kids and marriage are things on the list, great. If not, great. Make peace with yourself. Also: know that what you want for yourself might totally morph and change, which is fine. There’s no ONE way to be or live life. Just don’t give up and be a quitter and PRETEND you’re happy.

2. Contrary to what has been deeply ingrained in my subconscious because of my upbringing, I’m learning that men have feelings. Especially the ones I end up attracting.

3. Live your life or document it? Sometimes you have to make a choice and say to yourself ‘No! I’m not gonna twitpic e’erything I see!’ I know it’s hard. But be strong.

4. So, a guy you DO NOT want to be with, who used to love you doesn’t love you anymore. Perfect! Unless you’re a fucked up asshole, and his FINALLY being over you hurts your ego/pride. If you’re not in love with a guy who used to love you, don’t be annoyed he doesn’t love you anymore and then go out of your way to manipulate him into loving you again. You already broke his heart once! And you don’t even want him! What’s your deal?! Stop it!

5. Eating bread is not gonna kill you. NO! NOT at ALL… it’s just gonna make you really FAT.

6. JK JK! It’s totally OK to eat bread from time to time. Just don’t eat an entire pizza by yourself, even if it is vegan pizza night at m cafe! Unless you JUST ran into TWO of your ex boyfriends on the same day and you’re feeling especially emo/fragile/and shaken by it all and ‘love’ in general; Wondering where it all went wrong, how ephemeral love can be, who the REAL/NEXT love of your life is gonna be and ultimately who you’re gonna end up with/who’s right for you. With questions like ‘Where is he?’ ‘Who is he?’ and ‘Have I met him yet?’ flying through your mind. PS: I am not talking about myself. Except I am. Shhhhhhh.

7. Sometimes the most toxic people, who make you feel horrible, and who should be cut out of your life are your parents. They’re just harder to detect, cuz they’re hiding under an umbrella called ‘family.’ Don’t. Be. Fooled. If they’re toxic… CUT THEM OUT!

8. When you don’t return phone calls or a text, even though you’ve literally done nothing, you’re still making an important statement to the person you’re ignoring. Whether you mean it or not, it screams: ‘Fuck you. You are not a priority in my life.’ Just letting you know.

9. It’s much cooler/chic’er/classier/better to sport a simple canvas tote bag as opposed to some knockoff of a designer bag (i.e Chanel, Proenza Schouler, etc) Even if it’s way cheap, expensive, or a good fake and others might NOT be able to tell the difference, YOU’LL always know. And that’s enough.

10. It’s TOTALLY OK to complain about banal, first world/white girl problems as long as you tack on the obligatory:  “I mean, I know people are dying in (insert country/tragedy here), but I’m really annoyed they put onions on my hamburger! I specifically said ‘NO ONIONS!’ Ugh!” to erase your guilt, and seem as if you aren’t as shallow as you are. It’s called covering your ass. Do it! I know you want to!

By: boycrazy on March 29, 2011
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36 Responses to “the blind leading the blind (part 58):”

  1. L.A. Lady in Paris, on March 29th, 2011 at 4:08 am Said:

    Best list yet! Yay to living and cutting yourself some slack!


  2. R, on March 29th, 2011 at 6:07 am Said:

    this is a great blind leading the blind. my parents are totally toxic. and i’ve only just realised!


  3. S, on March 29th, 2011 at 7:54 am Said:

    Nro 8 made me laugh. Thanks. Cos I was crying before. XX


  4. Vicky Shazam, on March 29th, 2011 at 9:10 am Said:

    love love you

    xoxo


  5. C, on March 29th, 2011 at 9:16 am Said:

    #4 makes a really good point! And #8 made me think… I love these kind of posts. Also, I miss your personal stories and thoughts. Love you, Alexi!


  6. Sasha Lane, on March 29th, 2011 at 9:18 am Said:

    “Contrary to what has been deeply ingrained in my subconscious because of my upbringing, I’m learning that men have feelings. Especially the ones I end up attracting.”

    Boys with feelings are great, but boys who are giant pricks/pushovers are not.

    Oh! and loving the Terry Richardson photo. I love Courtney more than anyone should, Alexi!


  7. Chayla, on March 29th, 2011 at 9:58 am Said:

    Finally! A written post! I check everyday and now, at last (!), I’m rewarded…

    Love your blog, ESPECIALLY the written content!!!


  8. HeyitsAlexP, on March 29th, 2011 at 10:13 am Said:

    #9: there are tons of affordable, creative bags by smaller designers too! Check out Etsy or your local indie weekend market.


  9. St, on March 29th, 2011 at 10:13 am Said:

    I totes feel like men don’t have feelings too.


  10. Patrick, on March 29th, 2011 at 10:27 am Said:

    loved #7 and #8. love your blog. your a fucking genius! cant wait for your tv show!


  11. Elisa, on March 29th, 2011 at 10:28 am Said:

    1. so true, i’ve always been up in the air about kids and marriage. no marriage that i’ve seen has ever truely been 50/50 [or semi-close to that] 2. of course men have feelings, too many if ask me, lol, and im just talking about the men in my life [not bf's]. 7. sad but so true.


  12. Laura, on March 29th, 2011 at 10:56 am Said:

    I need to stop wondering if my ex still loves me because i sometimes do and then i think, well he’ll always love me. And I did that #4 to him before. Terrible. No more. And! I don’t eat bread anymore!


  13. natascha s, on March 29th, 2011 at 1:01 pm Said:

    agreed w/ friends not returning calls or texts. I love the excuse i’ve been really busy, who’s to say i’m not busy and as my friend advised me if someone really wants to be in touch they will make time, and if they aren’t- responding that they are busy is an excuse for not wanting to talk to you, or i guess they could also just be self important. bad manners peeps


  14. Chick, on March 29th, 2011 at 1:04 pm Said:

    #1 & #7 I so needed to see today, thanks!


  15. Grace, on March 29th, 2011 at 1:22 pm Said:

    yay! i missed your blog posts


  16. Anna, on March 29th, 2011 at 2:29 pm Said:

    I love you! This is what I’ve been waiting for haha. Someone should tell number 9 to my colleague.


  17. Coley Cole, on March 29th, 2011 at 3:11 pm Said:

    I screamed, “yes yes yes!” when I read #1.


  18. Marty, on March 29th, 2011 at 4:00 pm Said:

    #2: like I said to my wife recently (like anyone cares), “I’m a sensitive Jewish boy!” She just laughed….all day. She’s still laughing. Damn Ukrainian girls!

    #3: OMG…. For REAL ladies. Get a damn clue!

    #4: ha ha ha ha! Let me tell you, healthy guys can see this one coming an hour before it gets there. You’re not fooling anyone, girls. Yeah, we can get back together…first break up with your current boyfriend.

    #7: Whoa! Pretty extreme and unhealthy proscription there. Try setting (and more importantly, ENFORCING) boundaries instead. You get to keep your sanity AND your family (and you still get to piss them off). It’s win-win.

    #10: Please, banal girls, keep complaining. It makes me appreciate the 3rd worlders so much more! (Why do you think I married a Ukrainian girl?!?)


  19. leslie, on March 29th, 2011 at 4:09 pm Said:

    SERIOUSLY #1 5 7 & 8 A-FUCKING-MEN!!! i couldn’t agree more
    i love you you genius woman<3


  20. Marty, on March 29th, 2011 at 4:26 pm Said:

    okay, someone on here suggested Alexi get a TV show and I got a little excited about the prospect. So I looked on Facebook and there’s BLESSED LITTLE to do with Alexi. So I made a FB page to support the idea that she should have her own show. Click the link below:

    http://www.facebook.com/pages/Late-Night-with-Alexi-Wasser-Petition/109931849090012

    I don’t know if this is what she wants, but it sure would be cool to see her on TV, even if it’s just a rant or something (though I imagine she could put on a pretty good full-hour show!) Hope you’ll join in the effort (I’m not sure if we’re trying to convince Alexi or some TV network, but either way….)

    I need to get a photo of her in the public domain (Alexi: care to let me use your photo?)


  21. frank, on March 29th, 2011 at 4:34 pm Said:

    oh yeah, testify sister! Men are such fuck wads!Wait a minuet!I got balls! I’m a fuck wad! Yipeeee!


  22. frank, on March 29th, 2011 at 4:36 pm Said:

    Seriously, Think of rainbows and unicorns and stay on your meds!


  23. thomas, on March 29th, 2011 at 4:48 pm Said:

    marty. alexi has show in development on showtime. stay tuned!


  24. MELE, on March 29th, 2011 at 5:18 pm Said:

    7 – so fuckin’ true. you didn’t get to choose your parents, but they got to choose you.


  25. thomas, on March 29th, 2011 at 6:41 pm Said:

    #7 sad but true. fortunately, my parents and i have a great relationship. my sister on the other hand….. i don’t hate her, i just feel better when she’s not around.


  26. LeeAnna, on March 29th, 2011 at 7:02 pm Said:

    It really helped me to see #7 today. xx.
    Why are you so relatable alexi? Thanks girl. xx.


  27. Eros, on March 29th, 2011 at 7:07 pm Said:

    GREATTT ALL OVER!

    WRITE MORE GURRLL. I know your busy and all, but come on! you have people depending on you! xoxox


  28. Sonia, on March 29th, 2011 at 8:21 pm Said:

    #4 is a good one. somehow we just have to move on, n ON TO THE NEXT ONE :)


  29. Elisa, on March 29th, 2011 at 9:38 pm Said:

    #4! YES! Just the kind of slap in the face I needed. Seeing my ex with his new girlfriend kills me a little every time, but isn’t being in love with his best friend a big enough signifier that I am over it?! Sheesh.


  30. veroniiiika, on March 30th, 2011 at 2:59 am Said:

    aside from the last little bit, this is the most mature blind leading the blind to date.

    congratulations! you are nearing a place called emotional maturity! It’s a nice place to live, or so I hear.


  31. BLU LAMBO, on March 30th, 2011 at 11:47 am Said:

    @29. ELISA

    LOL!


  32. Chrissay, on March 30th, 2011 at 2:25 pm Said:

    This is on point, as always


  33. Emily Kavanaugh, on April 1st, 2011 at 11:47 am Said:

    These are my favorite posts that you do.

    And girl, WHEN is your show gracing us with its presence on air?


  34. robin, on April 2nd, 2011 at 2:47 pm Said:

    what, no snickerdoodles? c’mon courtney!


  35. JR, on April 5th, 2011 at 5:16 pm Said:

    God, you’re such an idiot.


  36. pj rourk, on April 13th, 2011 at 3:41 pm Said:

    Another cunt with daddy issues!Hey what do you tell alexi when she has two black eyes?Nothing her daddy already told her twice!


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