There is only silence on both Blog Talk and over the telephone.
Hi Alexi, I think I may know why you sometimes receive unresponsive calls–calls in you queue when picked up are only silence.
When your show started last night and there was only silence on my computer, I was not certain if my computer was not working or whether there was something wrong with Blog Talk.
So, I called in. I did not press, “1,” to be in you queue but just remained on the line to hear if you were broadcasting. I did not hear you broadcasting over the phone so I hung up. That is when I wrote the message above.
However during your broadcast, you called out my phone’s area code which is in pretty distinct area. All you heard was silence. I was not on the phone at all and had hung up long before when your Blog Talk began working again.
I think what may happen with some of the non-responsive calls is people call in to listen until their computer can connect properly with Blog Talk. These people then hang up. However, Blog Talk–for whatever reason–both adds the call to your host queue and does not remove the call from your host queue once the person hangs up.
So, two problems occur. One, the person is only listening and does not intend to speak with you but that call nonetheless pops up in your queue. Second, when that person hangs up there number still appears in your queue.
You might want to ask Blog Talk about the best way to deal with the issue on their end.
OK, I hope this helps.
Anyone know the song at the end?
dear “mutual friends on facebook guy” and all the other similar indie emo dudes that call in asking this girl out on a date: clearly NOT the type of person this girl is into if she’s even into guys at all, especially given her “daddy issues” and WHO her (famous) dad is. she would rather kick it with that retarded 22 yr old boxer dude from Florida who called in. the other thing is, don’t believe the bo-ha about finding a mr. nice guy who doesn’t “treat you like shit” -believe me, you’ll be the first to know when that (never) happens in her own life.
Hey, man, I agree with you regarding not trying to hit up a girl you don’t know, never met, and really know little about.
I include myself in this category, as do the majority of us readers and listeners.
The guy who called in this week was a little immature. That is OK, there is nothing wrong with that at all. We all were and are immature in many aspects. I don’t think any of us here or any where else is the Dalai Lama.
I give the guy credit for trying. How many dudes don’t even try?
His approach was bad, but I think he would make an excellent lawyer. He first had Alexi concede men and women can be friends then he set out to establish his case for being her friend–but clearly being attracted to her and wanting more. That works perfectly in the legal field, not so much with women.
So, I am proud of that young man for trying. I am in no way going to rag on a guy for making the effort to ask a girl out and risking getting shot down. I know too many guys who are in their forties newly divorced and can’t brave asking a woman out.
My only advice to him is be direct. “Hey, you want a guy to ask you out? No problem; let’s go out. I’m certain our relationship will be monumentally dysfunctional, having started with nothing else but a blog, twitter feeds, and a podcast. But think of all the wonderful stories we can share with our respective therapists when it ends. That alone makes it worth it.”
In regards to the rest of what you wrote, I have no clue who this blogger’s parents are. I am not even going to look it up because it does not matter.
I think what you are missing is the perspective that children of successful/famous parents have it tough. Why? Imagine your dad being CEO of the most successful company in the world; you know growing up there is little you can do that will ever make you more successful than your father. This is tough to know.
How do you make him proud? He will always be your, “father,” and not an equal. You will always look up to him and so will your own kids–they will quietly compare him to you and feel bad for you. Also, your wife will know you are only an image of your father; that has to suck. Right?
A guy like me–my dad is a great, caring, honest, hard working man–I have a low standard to meet to be more successful than my father, resulting in him being proud of me. My dad worked hard but did not earn much. At graduation from college I was already earning more than my dad ever earned in life.
He’s proud of me, we talk like equals now, any woman I date knows that I am a man like my father.
However, my nephews have it tough. I did not realize all three felt anxiety with trying to achieve my level. So, I had to talk with them and tell them what makes a man is character and stewardship–among other things.
So, I hope my perspective will help you feel less anger and hatred for someone who does not deserve it–very few people in the world deserve the anger and hatred of another.
no hatred jm, just trying to help answer seekers get to the core reality. and oh yeah, no, here parents are famey in a minor sort of way. nevertheless she’s part of the “club,” and as far as his dad goes he actually earned it on the merits of his own talent, and not exclusively by who he knew or who his parents are. hopefully that offers a little perspective on what’s going on here. aside from that, i think your assessment of celebrity and elite power people children is pretty accurate. it’s usually the case that these kids are deeply insecure and have a lot of personal issues, but that doesn’t mean you have, or that an outlook like that should be model for conducting your own way of life.