of course i met two lovely guys at m cafe! it’s a place where ONLY good things happen!

meet Sebastian! he’d seen my b l o g on street carnage, we started chatting, and he TOTALLY agreed to let me steal a bit of his soul for my site! yay! ever seen the movie dazed and confused? i have! it’s fucking epic! all the dudes have longish hair and neato features- at least the sexiest ones do!

dating Sebastian/making out with him day after day, would remind ANY LUCKY LADY why that movie is soooo good!

listen to ‘sebash’, ‘seb’, ‘s dog’ talk to me about dating, love, turn ons and turn offs- while the daily hustle & bustle of my beloved m cafe moves at a frenetic pace in the background.

the other dude, in video #2, was in a mad rush to leave. he is not American- he is Australian (from Melbourne, specifically, if you MUST know!), super tall, and tattooed! watch me interrogate him before he dashes off to catch a plane BACK to his homeland!

you’re welcome in advance for the David Kramer (of family books) cameo!

wow, today’s post is like a cluster-fuck of cute babes! I’m pretty sure there’s even a cute boy in the background of video #2, just sitting a table, straight up chillaxin! enjoy!

i love you! xo

m cafe mania: sebastian! from alexi wasser on Vimeo.

m cafe mania: the Australian dude! from alexi wasser on Vimeo.

By: boycrazy on January 22, 2010
Tags: dude of the day, m cafe, photo by tim barber, videos
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I told him, when I met his parents for the first time, how it made me squirm a bit. he was another guy I had fallen in love with and this was another family I’d get close to. If it didn’t work out- and obviously it eventually didn’t- I would have opened myself up to another group of people who i’d have to say goodbye to; friends and family.

Now, looking back, it stings- especially when I think back to the day my most recent ex and I broke up. him saying that he didn’t talk about our break up with his dad because his dad would have just been harsh towards ME and that his step mom advised him not to see me in person- after we’d broken up over the phone. Wow. Then when I called his friend that I’ve only ever been friendly with- who I’d consoled (via the phone) while he cried about his life and options and choices/who told me I made his relationship with (insert my ex’s name here) better and that he hoped we stay together forever- when I called him to get some advice and was in a bad place and needed to talk one human being to another- this friend of the ex snapped at me and told me he would have broken up with me two weeks into the relationship if he had been MY boyfriend- with all the tests and games I pulled with (ex).

Huh? Had he been in the relationship with me? No. Had I only ever been loving towards him? Yes. Didn’t he know how emotionally closed off his friend/my ex could be? I thought so. He should. Wow. This was a wake up call. Never consider your bf’s friends your own. Their friends are their friends. And their family is their family.

Later- when the ex and I were amicabley broken up, he said not to worry about the friends behavior. The friend was just defensive and being protective of him. I get that. But, when I flipped the situation and thought about how I would treat a person, I realized I would have never snapped and been so cold and rude. And now that there’s been more time since my breakup, and as I continue to only say nice things about my ex when people ask why we’ve split- the only person that’s left me with a bad taste in my mouth is his friend and his behavior. Behavior from a guy who preaches being understanding, and having empathy for the human condition; someone who is very emotional himself. If my ex and I don’t hate each other, he needn’t be so rude.

As I move on and WHEN i fall in love with the next man I choose to make important in my life- I’m not gonna let this experience make me be closed off. I’m not gonna get jaded or bitter. I’m gonna remain open, and meet the next love of my life’s friends and family, and love them as if they were my own. I’ll just cross my fingers and hope they don’t act like total unfeeling, asshole, hypocrites for no good reason – if the whole thing goes awry/falls apart. That’s the hardest part sometimes- staying open and childlike and always believing in love. but i am, and i do. I love you. Xo

PS: TOMORROW FROM 10:30PM – 12 MIDNIGHT PST, I’LL BE ON THE RADIO!

KXLU 88.9FM LOS ANGELES.

CALL IN AND SAY HELLO! THE # IS (310) 338-5958

By: boycrazy on October 23, 2009
Tags: break ups, photo by tim barber, thoughts and stories
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TONIGHT FROM 8-10PM PST:

ok, so i’m doing a podcast again…tonight. 8pm – 10pm PST. my mom gave me some advice: this time i will listen better, not be so frantic, not act as though it’s a race to get through all the calls.  i will treat people the way i want to be treated. i might have a glass of wine before the show. i will be calmer and gentler.

it’s gonna be two hours, with a surprise guest for the first hour. the second hour will be me taking YOUR calls. so, give me another chance. tell your friends: guys and girls to call in. (646) 378-0649

just come back here at 8pm and click on the podcast/blog talk radio link to the right.

two different girls called in and the advice i gave was a bit sloppy. i misheard them and wasn’t focusing. it was because i was frantic due to technical difficulties. one girl said she was bummed about a guy she really likes (who is friends with a guy she used to hook up with) not telling people about their relationship. i didn’t hear you clearly and said you should move on. but now that i listened to the podcast (while cringing and at the same time fighting the urge to punch myself in the face) i understand that he’s just being respectful of his friend. i think you should continue dating, wait it out for like 6 months and keep it low key. there’s a difference between your guy being ashamed of you and just being respectful of one of his friends. trust your instincts.

also, a girl called in about liking a guy that her friend likes and that it was causing a problem between the two girls. i told her to have her friend call me, but i think that when the friend called- i didn’t put two and two together. so call me again and tell me if the mutual guy crush is still an issue- but tell me what your friends name is, so i can expect her call and know who i’m supposed to be giving advice to.

so, there you go! i hope to hear from all my wonderful girl and boy readers. but don’t forget, i AM totally boycrazy- so i’d love to hear from cute guys with six packs too. (and by ‘six packs’ i mean: successful, strong, tall, neato, smart, cool dudes)! lot’s of love, alexi

TOMORROW FROM 6-8PM:

don’t forget to RSVP! see you there! there will be 2 kissing booths! one for boys and one for girls! make-up, drinks, babes, and dj ana calderon who i love soooo much! yippy skippy! it’s important to be social! xo

By: boycrazy on October 21, 2009
Tags: alexi wasser, events, parties, photo by tim barber
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